Our lives would not be the same without the many dogs who shared our home. Each in his or her own special way brought happiness, love, laughter, and heartache.
Lady was a beautiful golden retriever who claimed us as her own when she was just a pup, a few weeks old. (I realize the photo is terrible, but it’s actually Lady.)
Lady was a real princess, and all puppy. She was the perfect addition to our family and she showered us with love and play. Lady was happy to ride a rubber raft in the waves when we were able to spend time at the beach. We still have furniture with Lady marks on it. It’s not damage, it’s memories.
Lady was with us for a temporary move to Tennessee. She liked riding on the back seat window ledge behind our daughter and three boys. By this time, she was a full-grown playmate and loved romping with the kids.
After a year in Murfreesboro, we prepared to move back to Michigan. We were down to one car, an Olds Cutlass that had seen much better days. The fan only had one speed that was equal to a breath of air. I found a small oscillating fan and attached it to hang in front of the vent. I thought it was a perfect solution. When we loaded the car for the long trip, the kids were in the back seat, and I tried to put Lady in the front. She took one look at my motorized contraption and flew over the back seat onto bare legs. We started the trip with screams and scratches.
We settled into a rented two-story house, Lady had her own little house in the back yard. There were two old ladies living next to us who took a strange interest in Lady. We started receiving anonymous letters in the mail condemning us for having our dog hooked to a leash in the back yard.
After returning from a trip out of state, during which we had friends feeding and taking care of Lady, we arrived home to discover our dog looking at us through the fence of the old ladies’ yard. I was furious! I couldn’t lift her over the fence, so I went to their front door and demanded they return our dog. I should have called the police!
On a cold snowy winter morning, Lady gave birth to a litter of puppies. They were a mixed breed, half of the pups were black, the others looked like purebred retrievers. For the first several weeks, Mary snuggled each of the puppies every day. One of the males was taken by family friends who named him Charlie. Charlie was a great dog with all the character and appearance of a beautiful golden. For many years, even though we might not see our friends for quite a while, when we visited, Charlie came bounding through the house to climb on our laps as if we were his long-lost parents. Our friends said he didn’t act like that with anyone else.
The next year, our hearts were torn apart when Lady began having seizures. We called the veterinarian who said she would probably not recover. As cold tears rained down from the sky, our Lady was put to rest. We placed her in a grave as we all cried. One of our little boys asked if we could sing his favorite song, “Arise, Shine for Thy Light Has Come.” We held hands and sang as the rain continued to fall.
Panting, smiling, under foot
In happiness and sorrow
Your dog will always find a way
To bring a bright tomorrow.
Caring, waiting, watching close
Not for a moment ceasing,
Your dog is constantly at work,
His only thought is pleasing.
Life is really wonderful
No matter what they say,
Your dog knows just what it takes
To make you smile today.
Copyright 2019 by Dale R Parsons
Dogs are a wonder
of fur, fangs, and fun.
Running asunder in
sand, sod, and sun.
Waiting for someone
to tease, tug, and trail,
The happy young master
of teeth, tongue, and tail.
Copyright 2019 Dale Parsons
Some time ago, my wife and I were having dinner at a restaurant with my sister. As often happens, we started talking about the old days. Memories can be painful, selective, incorrect, and lots of other things, but the memories I prefer are funny. The actual experiences might not have been funny at the time, but the craziness makes them funny to talk about now.
We sat down in a booth, which I prefer, as opposed to a table out in the middle of the room. In booths you have your own little house with two doors which can be protected from intruders. At tables people can move all around you, which can be unsettling. I noticed an older couple (older than us) sitting in the next booth, but didn’t think anything of it.
What makes most of our stories even funnier is that the things we did, some of which could have burned the house down several times over, went totally unnoticed by our parents, especially our father. He was a guy who couldn’t see things right under, or even on his nose, but had a sixth and seventh sense about what we were thinking. So, the answer was not to think.
In 1961, my grandparents came for a visit from California. At the time, they had a beautiful 1956 Ford Fairlane, a spotless two-tone green and white classic. Probably not so much to protect it as to make it easy for my dad to go to work each day, the Ford was parked in our one-car garage. My brother and I decided to be very helpful, and wash Grandpa’s car in the garage. So, using Comet cleanser, we began scrubbing the hood of the car. We didn’t understand why our white rags were turning green, but we must have thought we were doing a great job. This one didn’t go unnoticed, and the lights must have really gone out, because I don’t remember anything that happened after that.
We talked about the time I made match-head rockets. I wasn’t outside, in a field, or a parking lot. I was in the basement. The rocket worked perfectly, shooting across the string I had stretched between two chairs, the exhaust left a blue cloud that filled the basement. Who can’t smell a single match lit anywhere in the house? No one asked about the blue smoke in the basement.
For a while, I was fascinated with chemicals, test-tubes, and bunsen burners. When I didn’t have a real alcohol burner, I tried to make one. I had an empty shotgun shell, put a piece of cloth in it, then used a capillary tube to take alcohol from a bottle and drop on the cloth as it burned. What I didn’t know is that alcohol flame is invisible. I didn’t see the flicker on the end of the tube as I put it back in the bottle of alcohol. “Phoooomp!!” Nope, the bottle didn’t explode and set my bedroom on fire, my hair didn’t burn, I still had my eyebrows. I just didn’t do it again.
I talked my mother into taking me to a store where I could buy some chemistry equipment, including a real bunsen burner. My sister and I set up a lab, IN MY CLOSET, behind the clothes on a shelf that ran the length of the closet. We were mixing chemicals, cooking them, with fire, in my closet! (The house is still standing.)
I loved firecrackers. I heard someone at school talking about taking gunpowder out of shotgun shells, so I decided to try it. Standing over the shell my dad never missed, which I had taken from his unlocked ammo cabinet, I used a screwdriver to dig into the crimp and open the shell. (That almost takes my breath away.) I poured the tiny BBs into the toy box. I took the open shell still containing gunpowder outside and held a burning match over it. The powder burned in a flash instead of a bang I expected. I decided real firecrackers were better, so one by one, I took firecrackers from my dad’s dresser drawer. He never said a word, even after they were all gone.
We laughed about my memory of shooting a model car to pieces, with my BB gun…on my bedroom floor. I carefully picked up all the pieces, discovering that each shot left a dimple in the hardwood of my bedroom floor. Impossible to miss, yet everyone did.
Fire was a recurring fascination. My brother found a heavy black rock we were sure fell from space. Bugs made homes in the many small holes in the rock so we decided to burn them out. In the grass beside the back porch, he lit a small flame on the rock. I decided to pour gas on it to keep the fire going. From a metal sand pail, I poured gasoline which immediately ignited, going up into the pail, which I dropped. My brother was kneeling beside the rock yet he didn’t get spashed with gas, and the bucket landed upside down. We quickly put out the flames, but there was a circle of scorched grass about three feet across. I was sure we would die as soon as dad got home. No one ever said a word.
Our dad was a salesman and his work often included entertaining clients, which sometimes meant my parents were gone overnight. It was great fun for my brother and I since our little sister spent the night with our grandparents. We watched endless TV and cooked or baked whatever we wanted. One time we each made our own cake, but since I was using the oven, my brother put his in a broiler, which only made a crust on the top. He ate the crusty layer then returned it to the broiler again. I called my grandparents in the middle of the night with a terrible stomach ache.
In the restaurant, we ate, drank coffee, told stories, and laughed a lot. Probably laughed a little too loud (that was me), and what we didn’t know was that the elderly couple next to us was enjoying every minute of it. When we stood to leave, with laughter the lady said to us, “We want you to know we really have been entertained by your stories!” She looked at me and said, “And you’re lucky to be alive!” We all laughed together again.
Speaking of coffee…
Thirty-one years in ministry afforded many experiences that were…well, funny, crazy, and some were just stupid. In our first job, nearly forty-six years ago, we were youth pastors at a small church, two hundred miles south of where we were attending college. We had a small upstairs apartment across the street from the church, which was convenient, until the landlady decided to put all our belongings out on the curb while we were away during the week. She was upset because some of the youth showed up and knocked on their door after they went to bed.
We were on our way back to school late one wintery Sunday night, with our brand new little puppy someone from the church gave us. In the middle of nowhere, the engine quit and we were stuck, freezing. A kind state trooper rescued us, returning us all the way to our trailer-park home at the college. On the way, our puppy threw up on the back seat of the squad car.
Our second position was at a small church in our college town, so, no more four-hour drives after Sunday night services. Again, I was a youth pastor, but was also the choir director. Directing choirs was just something I decided I could do. I never had any musical training other than piano lessons. I enjoyed directing very much and it came in handy many many times over the years.
One Sunday morning a new young couple visited the church. I happened to notice the man wore a ring that looked familiar, although, oddly, I didn’t recognize him. As we became acquainted in the following weeks, conversation finally included asking about his occupation. “I’m a state trooper,” he said. Yes. The same officer who gave us a ride home over a year earlier. And, yes, he remembered our puppy throwing up in his car.
Being young and eager sometimes combine energy to push common sense into the ditch. A ministry whose big plans and dreams far outweighed resources was looking for young people. We agreed to join them and moved to northern Illinois. We were told we would receive a certain salary, but after we arrived with our belongings in tow, they told us, “We can’t pay you.” Rather than running, we stayed. We told them, “God will take care of us.” There were only two redeeming factors in our year-long ordeal. Our landlords were a lovely old couple living in the other half of the large old farmhouse which was our home. They watched over us like parents, and were especially helpful when our daughter was born. Our beautiful little girl was the second blessing.
When we finally left for a real job, the leaders of the “ministry” actually said, “We couldn’t help you because you told us God would take care of you.” Abuse of employees by those who should know better is far too common in ministry.
We worked for a ministry in Texas the next four years. We were worship leaders on Sundays, and I was the conference planner and musician for the travelling ministry during the week. One Sunday as I was singing and playing the piano I happened to notice a large cricket hopping up behind me. As I continued to play, I waited until just the right moment and stomped the cricket with my right foot, never skipping a beat. Of course, the whole front row was laughing instead of singing.
There used to be a chorus, “All God’s children love livin’, livin,’ all God’s children love livin’ bread” to the tune of “Mama’s Little Baby Loves Shortnin’ Bread.” One Sunday I was teaching the song to the congregation, but when I started singing, instead of “All of God’s children…” I sang, “Mama’s little baby…” The pastor cackled and nearly fell out of his chair.
Perhaps the setting for some of the craziest things was the year we travelled across the country on our own. We preached, played and sang in churches, large and small…some were very small. On one occasion we were invited to California for a series of conferences. One thing that was always difficult for us was staying in homes rather than having the privacy of a hotel. We never knew what to expect and sometimes it was anything but comfortable.
One morning, after having arrived at a pastor’s home late the previous night, I walked into the kitchen where our host was cooking. “I have fried potatoes every morning,” he said. “Want some? Or maybe some toast?” I said toast would be fine. A few minutes later he tossed a piece of toast bouncing and flinging crumbs across the table to me. No plate, butter, or anything else. “Later,” he said, “we’re going to the grand opening of our new grocery store for lunch.”
At lunch time, we all piled in the car for a short trip to the new grocery store. I pictured maybe a buffet, or hotdogs, or burgers. Nope. We went up and down the aisles for small samples of items the new store was selling. This story has been told many times. The pastor and his small family was probably struggling to survive and what they shared with us came at a high price.
We were scheduled to be at a church in another state for four days. We had been with the pastor and his family before, so we looked forward to seeing them again. At the end of a long drive, we met the pastor and his wife at a restaurant. He asked if we would be willing to stay an extra day and do a concert the fifth night. We were happy to do it, until we arrived where we would be staying.
We walked into the old house and immediately felt uneasy. There was a young man sitting at the kitchen table studying. We noticed the coffee maker on the counter had mold growing in it. As the pastor showed us through the home we asked about the owner. “Oh, she died,” he said, “they found her in a coma in the house.” Ugh! We asked about the man in the kitchen, “He’ll be staying here with you.” I told him we weren’t comfortable with that and preferred he not stay. All I could think about was that we had just agreed to stay an extra day! We were creeped out.
One time I was playing and a mouse ran out of the piano by my feet. I guess he didn’t like the music. In one city I was privileged to play a nine-foot Steinway concert grand piano for a four-day conference. What a blast! I also enjoyed playing a Bosendorfer grand piano one time. I don’t remember if I actually used the extra keys.
For seventeen years we were lead pastors, in three churches. We continued doing music and directing choirs. I found the choirs provided relief from the pressures of pastoring. The piano was a constant companion, and at one church I even had the pleasure of choosing a brand new grand piano to be donated to the congregation by a family who lost a loved one. What a pleasure it was to play that beautiful instrument every Sunday and spent many hours playing during the week. I hated to leave it behind when we moved.
One Sunday I was about to play a studio piano which is taller than a spinet, shorter than an upright. I joked with the congregation as I was sitting down but hit my head on the edge of the piano and left a large creased goose-egg on my forhead. I can’t remember what I played.
One congregation met in a rented hall which had a stage with three steps. It was time to begin the service but I remembered something I needed at the back of the room. Walking to the edge of the stage, I tripped and rolled down the steps, plowing into the legs of two women sitting on the front row. As I lay on the floor, trying to decide if I was hurt, a lady leaned over and said, “Pastor, this is my friend, she’s here for the first time today.” I reached up and shook her hand. I don’t remember if she ever came back.
On a Wednesday night during the old-fashioned mid-week prayer meeting, I was giving a handout to the attendees and banged my leg on a pew and loudly said, “Ohhh shhhhiiinnnn!” I’m sure there were several who thought I was going to say something else.
A major leap forward into the 20th century involved replacing the old overhead projector with a very modern digital projector so worship songs could be projected onto a screen. I used my laptop so I could control the new machine while playing the piano. One thing I forgot to consider was the screen saver on my computer. After a Sunday morning service a man said to me, “Can I get equal time?” “What are you talking about?” I asked. “During the morning prayer, ‘Model Railroading Is The Greatest’ was scrolling across the screen.” Yep, my screensaver.
The all-time clincher happened on Easter Sunday morning, perhaps the most solemn, meaningful, revered, holy day of the entire year. The “Easter Sunrise Service,” for those who don’t know, means you have a service at the crack of dawn and then eat cold scrambled eggs and toast afterwards. I was reading the Easter story from the Scriptures, which included the description of Jesus being arrested in the Garden of Gethsemane. When the soldiers grabbed Jesus, the Apostle Peter took a sword and cut off the ear of a man named Malchus. Later, as Jesus was being questioned, the disciples stood around a fire with several others, trying to keep warm. I continued reading, “And standing at the fire was a woman, the sister of Malchus, whose Peter was cut off…” Obviously, it was supposed to be “Malchus, whose ear Peter cut off.”
I really need some more coffee.
Don’t you love running into people you know at the grocery store? Not. If we go to one of the big box stores, I will purposely try to avoid running into someone I know. I’m not completely antisocial, at least I don’t think I am. There are just some good reasons not to come in contact with people you know when you’re shopping.
Here is the question that drives me nuts, and I’ve never come across a good answer. When you come face to face with someone you know in the store, and then you see them again in another aisle, do you have to say something to them again? “Hey! Didn’t I just see you in frozen food?” Or, do you just ignore them and take the risk of them being upset with you because you didn’t acknowledge that you saw them again, when you know full well they walked within two feet of you?
And here’s the next thing. Can you keep yourself from looking at what they have in their cart? I don’t think so. Do you want someone looking at the things you have in your cart? Oh, sure it’s fine if you’re buying milk, eggs, and fabric softener. What if you need suppositories? What if you just picked up some KY and you don’t have a bag of rice to hide it under? And what if you do look down into their cart, and you see what you know they don’t want you to see, but you know they know you saw what they don’t want you to see. Now what do you do? “Oh, I didn’t see anything! I didn’t look down! I didn’t see that?”
“What do you mean? What didn’t you see?”
“Nothing! I didn’t see anything!”
Don’t act like this hasn’t ever happened to you, unless you’re one of those people who order online and have everything delivered. Which is fine, but now you’re not going to have the pleasure of running into people you know at the grocery store, and that part of your life is going to be robbed.
So, I’m going to propose some answers for the big retail companies to put in place immediately.
- All shopping carts should be enclosed with tarps that prevent anyone from seeing inside. Now you can buy all of those secrets to your heart’s content and no one will know. On the front of the cart should be the words, “Don’t even think about it.”
- Every store should have a huge shopping protocol banner on display so no one feels undue pressure to be social. Here are some must-have rules:
- In our store, no one knows anyone. No one has to say “Hi.”
- If you do choose to say “Hi,” only say it once. If you see the person again, ignore them.
- If you do choose to speak to someone a second time, the following are suggested comments you can use to avoid awkwardness.
- “I hate shopping.”
- “Have you seen my mother? I’ve lost her somewhere.” (Doesn’t have to be true.)
- “I can’t find wheat germ. Do you know where it is?”
- Aisle conversation limit – 30 seconds.
Shopping does not have to be traumatic. It will be much less so if you are always shopping among complete strangers. Acting like others are strangers makes them so. Problem solved!
But, what about the cashier? They see your stuff. And don’t you just hate it when they comment on what you’re buying? “Oh, I love these!” Makes you want to say, “Well, open the package and take one!”
The big item for next time: If you see someone who has something in their nose, are you obligated to tell them?
Until our next post, happy shopping!
Where’s my coffee?!